My 6yr old daughter decided she wanted to dye her hair orange. I was a tiny bit alarmed but calmly inquired why she wanted to do this. It turns out that, seeing as two of her closest friends are redheads, she also wanted to be a redhead. Although I was not going to let her dye her hair, her decision to join the minority didn’t go unnoticed.. When I was growing up being a redhead was not something one would choose… the redheads were teased mercilessly.
I thought we had sorted ourselves out when a few months later she was concerned that her bum was too big. ‘I have the biggest bum in my class! All the others have flat bums, mine sticks out! In fact I probably have the biggest bum in the whole year’ she complained.
Oh Lord Jesus! How to respond?
I was tempted to say ‘yes babe, its big…that’s how God made you, live with it!’. I wanted to explain how lots of women do all sorts of things to get a bum like hers but I took a deep breath and said ‘yes, your bum sticks out, just like your mummys and it is beautiful!’
She paused…looked at my bum and smiled. ‘Yes, its just like yours mummy and yours is big and beautiful!’ And off she skipped…..no doubt to find something else she is not satisfied with.
But for now…..’Phew!’
Label -100% person 100%female. Wants to fit in. Needs regular affirmation.